Just to add here Marle, maybe it will help, maybe not. I've had a whole lot of people hurt me pretty bad in my life, mostly family, some friends and some total strangers. When those people consume my thoughts, or strike anger in my heart, or even cause me fear, I tried lots of things to deal with it, to try to settle my thoughts and feelings, the only thing that ever helped me was to pray that the person offending me would find their HP.
Prayers for them didn't calm me down, but prayers that they find "HP" just gave me a feeling of calm. Even the very worst of the worst could be the best person in the world if they would only find their HP to guide them. Then everything else would fall into place as it should be.
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