OMG, are you sure he is not leading a double life......with ME? I swear that scene has played itself out at my house as well. The thing I'm beginning to realize is that nothing will change until I do. My AH has his fantasies, like yours. My fantasies are more along the lines of: He disappears and me and the kids live happily ever after.......magical thinking on my part! Thanks for sharing your story and keep sharing, I think we all learn so much from each other.