Way to go, tormented. I know - it doesn't FEEL like progress when you get mad and such, but everything you said was right on the mark and was something you've felt for a long time but never quite had the courage to express. He's a grown man who's never been forced to take care of himself. That's a little bit gross.
Now you know he was just calling in order to get you to take his little hand and make everything all better for him again. Love=you make it so I don't have to do anything for myself.
"A vodka day" ? And that makes it okay? Great, just great. (GL bangs her head against the door jamb)
Applauding you!! You're my hero today girl
P.S. I'm sorry, but his "if you loved me" line reminded me of that old line from horny high school boys, "If you loved me you would....." Sheesh.