Goodness! You don't even sound like the same person that posted a couple of weeks ago! I can feel your strength and the convictions coming through loud and clear.
You are so right- a 41 year old man should be able to figure out how to get a cell phone!
Ridiculous story: After I was already divorced from my AH, his bills still came to my house and he would come over once a week with cash in hand and we would go over his bills together and I would write out checks from my account and he would pay me the cash because he "couldn't" get a checking account.
After 3 years of this, I finally started dating again and this one gentleman saw the bills on the counter and said "Oh- I thought you said you were divorced??". I said "Oh I am!!" and explained our "arrangement". This gentleman kindly took me my the hand and gently explained what "divorce" means and suggested I allow my ex-husband to do his own bill paying. The proverbial lightbulb finally lit up and I took his advice!
As you can see, I was a remedial student in the skills of detachment.