Your husband's behavior is completely illogical, especially since he seems to hate your drinking and complains about it to others. Something is going on here and tho I can't identify what it is, it would seem your husband has a reason or reasons for wanting you to drink.
Only thing I can say for sure is that you've got to stop drinking because YOU want to stop. It's bad for you and you know that. So stopping drinking is really all about what's best for you. It will be harder to quit drinking without the support of your husband but it can be done. I urge you to give AA a try. Go to several meetings before you form an opinion about it. There are other recovery programs besides AA.
Please come here often and post how you are feeling. We care about your recovery and will support you. Please do whatever is best for YOU.
Welcome to a great place for support and encouragement.
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