I think you did marvellously! You should feel proud of yourself, you have made some boundaries concerning him and you are holding them! Also you are protecting your serenity and peace of mind.
True words can be wasted on an A, but it is thereputic to get some things off our chest, even if the receiver isn't listening intently, just 'saying' it makes me feel good!
In general I don't trust sentences that begin with ''If you loved me, you would.....''. I don't like anyone telling how I should and should not show my love and affection. That sentence usually reaks of manipulation. True love, I believe, means that I allow a person to grow spiritually and emotionally within themselves, with care and acceptance from me. That I fully accept a person for who and what they are, without any stipulations of how their love for me should ''look''.
Congrats to you, Keep moving forward in serenity and peace,
Blessings
Lily xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx