Originally Posted by
OverItNow 
How can I feel sorry for a person who (I allow) treats me this way, knows his sons could be homeless if not for my parents and knows his wife, who would love to be relaxing and watching a movie, rather than hocking memories to strangers for money and eating peanut butter sandwiches every night so her sons can have meat and fish, while he goes to dinner and drinks with friends? Man oh man! I guess the first step is recognizing this? Thanks for letting me vent.
At a geuss, I'd say you feel sorry for him because it is easier to focus on this rather than the chaos you're living in.....
:ghug
The first step, as I understand it, is admitting and accepting nothing you do or don't do will get or keep him sober.