Hi! I still haven't completely understood how it is possible to work Alanon and live with an active alcoholic- I give you so much credit- don't get me wrong. My AH and I just took a 1 month split- to work on ourselves. It is the hardest thing I have ever been through, I go through moments of fear of the unknown- will we get back together? if we do, will he continue to not drink? I wrote him a long letter the other night (3 pages) about all of the things I would like to change- no mention of his drinking, just my own sanity from living with 3 alcoholics/addicts and growing up in a family with 2 parents who are children of alcoholics. I need to resolve my codependent issues, and I am losing the fear that if he drinks, I will go insane, because I am so busy working on myself and fixing the behaviors I need to change. I am trying to focus on this, that if we get back together (which at this point I want to in a month but know I am not ready as of yet), I will be okay no matter what, as long as I take care of myself. I hope everything works out for you, I hope you can just keep picking away at finding your inner peace. Other than this, I too will leave this one to the more experienced recovering codependents (I would like to know how this is possible too in case it happens to me).
Peace in recovery,
Sunflowergirl29