Originally Posted by
ananda 
How do you effectively communicate to others the pain you are in without it being self pity (I am assuming there are other painful emotions that are not self pity)?
I though I would try to answer this one first. I think what helps me Ananda is to use words that convey my emotions. If anything this helps me be aware of my emotions because I get dissociated from my feelings at times. I bring my emotional state into awareness, with out judging, and then into the awareness of others. I also don't try to explain why I'm feeling like I do, just what I'm feeling. I think if I start explaining why I'm feeling like I do, I'm inviting others to try and fix me. When all I need is some comfort and understanding.