I dunno about anyone else here, but I was right where you are - ok I didn't have a husband but I had friends and family who had no idea and who I was anything but honest with - there's nothing in your post that wasn't me.
I know dealing with this sucks. I know that drinking can seem the easier option.
The thing is - and I'm sorry but it's true - this is not the worst it gets - it gets worse if we ignore it or deny it or otherwise give up.
And I guess in a way that's the way it works - if you let it go, it will eventually get bad enough so that you will have to do something anyway.
The sooner you start at least trying, the only way is up.
Don't give up
I was really bad drinking - I never give up on anyone
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ps LOL winwin - steal away!