You are 100% right, now matter what the reason is, no one should accept being treated badly. WOW, your statement really hit home. Thank you, all this time I racked my brain to understand how can I excuse this behavior because I loved him. However, there is no EXCUSE!!!! I would never take this crap from a friend or anyone else so why did I take it from him. I am so mad at myself for being so weak and believing that he loved me. This is not love, he would not even marry me he said he did not love me enough or I was not worth it. The next day when he sober he said I misunderstood and he would never say that……. Plus, on time sober, he said one-half or him wants to marry me and other half cannot……. Are you kidding me, love me enough he is one with all the issues and he has the right to reject me. I cannot get past that, rejected by a messed up sole……