Dear Luli,
Your husband sounds just like mine did. It got worse and worse. I threw him out of the house once I realized that his presence was bad for the children and when I suspected child abuse. I have never regretted that decision.
Good luck! Perhaps you could try imagining how you would feel if someone you loved was in your shoes. Would you tell them to leave? If you want to have children some day, having them with your husband would not be a good idea knowing what you know now.
Take care of yourself. That's all you can do. If this means living away from him (at least temporarily until he SHOWS change), then do it.