Hi
My suggestion would be: write down what he is taking and what you are keeping. What ever is on his list goes with him at that time, there should be no coming back to get more.
If your places were reversed, he wouldn't allow you to come back and sort thru things to get more, so I don't think he should be allowed to do that either.
If there aren't any kids involved once this is over there shouldn't be any reason to talk to him and if kids are involved the only contact should be about them and nothing else. I know, easier said than done, as my thread last night proves but it is a nice thought.LOL
:ghug3
Barb