i know for me i have this innate need to be honest. i have learnt in recovery that trusting people with sensitive information needs to be earnt and that doesnt mean i lack integrity but that i respect and value myself....meetings are a great source of validation and comfort for me so that i dont crave it from other people who cant give it or cant be trusted to not use it in hurtful ways....ive also found simply not participating in certain topics as well as saying "is that so?" or "maybe"..."maybe your right" are great to use....people usually will try and hammer into me about something or other only because of their own fears and insecurities. the more i gain in recovery, the less i need their approval and the more i actually feel calmer and more compassionate rather than that discomfort and anger and not having my needs met to have honest open and engaging relationships.