i can understand how u feel. it is hard to know our sons are in prison ( jail). i have learned to let my son deal with his own problems. they are all about blame & will will blame you. if you get him out then what?????? he will probley do the same things again. they have to want to help themselves. as much as we want to we can not help them, only ourselves. i am sorry about all of this. prayers for you & your son.