Hey raven--
That's good news about your H in rehab. Good for him!
Now what about you? Are you in counseling or AlAnon or some other type of program for yourself? Those old patterns are hard to break - most codies need some kind of help/feedback to keep the focus on our own problems and on working towards goals we may have put off, or never allowed ourselves to have, because we were so focused on the alcoholic in our life.
Peace,
B.