It took me a while to figure out that everyone in the world was not out to "get me" and that i did not have to go on the defensive with everyone that came within 10 ft. of me.
People described me as " aloof "......mostly I was just afraid that people were not gonna like me or were gonna hurt me.
Putting on airs or being cold was my wall of protection. If people don't know me they can't hurt me.