Awwww Rozied, I'm so sorry...I understand your sadness and frustration. It frustrates and saddens me too when older folks are sucked into the dance of addiciton...I see it sort of like when children are affected. Maybe I shouldn't feel as if they can not protect themselves, and I'm sure if I am blessed to reach that age I will kick anyone in the shins who thinks that way, but it just feels like the worse form of manipulation. But they are adults and unfortunately you are as powerless over them as you are over your son.
When I am at my wit's end, I do find comfort in turning everything over to my HP and trusting that his way will be much better than mine. I just wish sometime sthat it was on my timetable.
Many hugs
