Originally Posted by
Reddmax 
Could some of the women exactly identify what makes a man dateable, and not scum? Just for reference so the guys out here actually have a clue when they get rid of the brain damage caused by their alcoholic SO.
Sorry, Redd, there just isn't a one-size-fits-all answer. What makes someone attractive to me might just be the thing that makes someone scum to another.
The best advice I ever got on this is to make a list of the qualities
you would like in a partner. Then take that list and become it. If you become the type of person you would want to be with, you will attract that type of person.
So, instead of trying to make yourself "dateable," decide what you want and go after it.
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