Hi gardenwiz~~Detaching was also hard for me. If it wasn't was therapy and alanon I don't think I would have ever been strong enough to do it. My son went into rehab last summer and I was certain he would be OK. Well~~its a year later and he's back on crack. We put so much energy, time and love into him and his recovery that this just breaks my heart. I know the illness has a hold on him but for now detaching is my game. I always want to belive the best but I had a call this morning that makes me nuts. I can't stand hearing from others that Chris is back at it but if thats the case~~~I hope he falls hard this time. And! I won't be there to pick up the pieces. Can you tell I'm a little upset?? It's better then crying. So~~p;lease do yourself a favor and go see a counselor that deals with drug addicts and learn all you can. Alanon would be good also. Lots of luck and love, Bonnie