wow! I can so relate to your thread! they sound like twins. thats exactly how it all started with me. the belittling, name calling, jealousy, etc. every bit of it. now, my SO has become abusive. this is NOT normal. its takent me almost 5 yrs to see it for what it is. Please be careful. the crying he does is because he's afraid of you leaving then who will he have to abuse, not crying for what he has done to you. Please be careful. I care. :ghug3