Just a little update...
I'm not returning her phone calls. I know that the moment I speak with her I will fold. Last night she called ( and left a message on the machine) to ask why I didn't love her anymore. And "what's up with that?". I wrote her a quick email today just saying that I do care for her just not the way she wants me to. And that she's the one who said the relationship was over.
I think that was the wrong thing to do. I think I'm playing into her game and now I'm anticipating a ill-mannered response from her.