it is a difficult road! My husband drinks to much. i use to think he wasn't an alcoholic but as my sobriety days grow I can see his character flaws (along with my own) more clearly. you may find the freinds and family forum useful. i find the post there really help me see both sides of the story. wishing you the best.
one an awesomely positive note...my parents have been sober together for over 25 years!!