Abundance,
You know I did try to tell her I was aware relapse is possible but she wasn't going to listen so I just shut up. I didn't know instructions come home when my daughter does. That sounds like a good thing. I think my biggest concern was asking how do I not be obvious about my purse (money,cards) without carrying it around with me. The councelor said just lock it up, she knows she did that to you and she chimed in and agreed she had to earn trust back.
And yes, I am going to Naranon meetings which is very helpful also. Thank you so much.