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Old 07-13-2008, 02:35 PM
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Done_With_It
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Originally Posted by outtolunch View Post
My 19 year old AD is once again addicted to her DOC, heroin. Heroin and stealing go hand in hand.

AD is employed by people I know. AD has access to the cash register and a key to the store. It is only a matter of time before she takes enough to be detected. I also work in this town and my business depends upon my name and personal integrity.

As most of us know, most people operate with the belief system that they have control over their adult children or that they did a good enough job raising them that their adult children will live on the straight and narrow. Of course, most people do not understand because they have no reason to. Heck, I was once one of them.

And so while I grapple with what to do on the home front, I also grapple with telling the shop owners what's going on and that they need to change their locks, now. My interest is to keep my daughter's name out of the paper because it's going to impact my business. How's this for focusing on me?

AD has been diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder meaning she has symptoms of a variety of mood disorders and schizophrenia. I can't tell where emotional/mental illness stops and addiction behaviors begin.

And so, my question of the day is, would you alert the shop owner to the situation or MYOB and let this play out?
AD is employed by people I know.
If their kid was stealing from you for drug money would you want them to tell you?

If they didn't and they let their kid steal from you and said their excuse was well we were focusing on us. How would that work for you? Would you still call them friends?

If this was not your child, would you let someone else steal from them?


I also work in this town and my business depends upon my name and personal integrity.
Personal integrity, and focusing on ourselves sometimes means doing
the right thing, especially when it is the hardest thing.

JMO, If it were me, that is how I would look at it, I would not let my friends or anyone really, get their money stolen from if had any idea about it.
That's just me though. I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one for you..

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