Originally Posted by
marle 
My daughter recently told me that I did a good job detaching from her. If I had continued to be in her life, she told me that she would have continued to tell herself that everything was okay.
Obsessed, I know it is hard but this is it, in a nutshell....
it took me a while to 'get' this but when I did it was very freeing and a relief to me...because staying in the circle with my AD was prolonging were she was at. It was really an aha moment for me, realizing that as long as "I was in the picture she was spared the true reality of her life. As long as I was there , she could tell herself, that it wasn't so bad...Despite all outward appearances of behavior, our kids, deep down, still look to their parents as some sort of barometer of their life...
my daughter used abortion indirectly as a method of birth control until she had her second abortion...then she finally decided to be more responsible....
Obsessed you have come so far, and like Marle says, just keep moving forward....hugs, Grateful