the desire/need to know what they are doing is overwhelming. it is very hard not to give in and call. the last few days i have resisted the urge to call and even though it's painful, i have some peace. i find it's also harder when i am alone because my mind goes crazy thinking about it. as hard as it is, try to not call her. try and find something to do to keep busy, that is what helps me. others here have much better coping strategies than i do, but that is all i can offer.