Originally Posted by
sadandhopeless 
He is getting drunk and acting like an idiot then that is behaving like a child and he deserves to be treated as one. remember until in recovery the relationship of an alcohlic and a significant other is just like a parent child relationship. Remember his own best thinking got him drunk....
No, its not a parent-child relationship! They are both adults. No adult deserves to be treated like a child. Yes, telling an adult to go to their room is treating them like a child and is an attempt at control of the other adult. THis is not the way I would want to live.
Like I said earlier, if my AH had done something like this, I would have removed myself and my guests. That is taking control of my life, not trying to control another adult.