Great news on the remission (((stephanie)))
One of the things I learned here is that only I could determine whether what I was doing was enabling. I often have to ask myself a few questions such as:
Will I resent having to do this after its done?
Is this something that I am preventing them doing for themselves, and therefore preventing their feelings of pride/success?
Do I have ulterior motives or expectations attached?
And sometimes most important: Is this an act of kindness I would show towards anyone in the same situation?
Clarifying these areas help me to get to the "why?" around things I often do.
I'm glad these days are brighter for you
(((Hugs)))