Does anyone else see a control issue here? I'm sorry, but demanding that an adult "go to his bedroom" if he is misbehaving so to speak is a issue of control.
I believe if we see behavior that is not acceptable to us it is our responsibility to remove ourselves from the situation, not send the A to his room like a naughty child and then expect him to comply.
Sorry, if this offends, just my opinion and what I got from the post. Respekting me my have a problem with control, which is just as much of a problem as the A has with drinking. I had huge issues with control and see myself in the post prior to going to Al anon and aftercare with my recovering AH.