Have to agree with isitme. I often found that hiding the issue was actually creating more/new problems. Once when at the hospital visiting a friends father who was in for a reason other than his drinking, the doctor came out and addressed the family. He'd asked, "how often does Stan drink?". His wife said "not much at all, maybe a couple of drinks on the weekend". She was trying to cover up his rather large drinking problem. After she'd left the room his children and friends all told the doctor "he drinks 6-8 drinks a night....usually doubles". Funny enough, the doctor said "I already knew the answer, I just wanted to see who I could rely on to get him into AA before his syrosis of the liver gets any worse". In the end the wife looked a tad foolish/out of touch because she was the only one hiding it.