Lovs,
Keep vigilant with yourself while you are in this positive, determined frame of mind, girl. He will keep trying to wear you down. I had to look myself in the mirror and say outloud, "You are never going to live like that again." This whole codie/addict thing has so many similarities, it is amazing. Like, an addict has to learn to separate himself from the drug and old familiar places and friends related to the drugs. He has to do a lot of self-work and maintenance type behaviors, every day, so that he does not have a slip or relapse. Above all, he must keep zero contact with his DOC, for fear of relapse and slipping back into those sad, painful days of using. I think that is why we all advise zero contact. Just the sound of our A's sorrowful voices can draw us back in during a weak moment. You are better off distancing yourself from your A, Lovtolaff. It is very empowering to realize that you have been used and you aren't going to take it anymore. Hang on to that!