I did it, and am now divorced. Oh boy, has it been a long 22 months from my hitting my bottom, and 10 months since I filed for divorce. Had my hearing today and like Barbara52 said it was an in and out, over in 10 minute deal. I was nervous but imagined myself surrounded by all my family, friends, alanon people and cyber friends from here. That helped a lot. I prayed my HP would show me what to do and hold my hand and next thing I knew I was divorced and on my way. And I didn't cry...actually felt a big relief and some joy creeping in.
Now that the decree is official, and XAH agreed in said decree to have only 1 beer while with the kids (I wanted zero...but you all know how A's are), and the kids have reported that is not being followed, I now have legal recourse. All my lawyer wants is a letter from the kids' therapist documenting what the kids saw.
I am so grateful for Alanon and this group.
