Hey Scared,
I can relate to your feelings of guilt. And that word in itself has been etched in all of our MINDS, we begin to carry so much of it, we begin to feel guilty. In my opinion the meetings really help. I know myself as I am the mother of a 5 year old, if I know it is going to HELP me I am going to do it. Try looking at it as it helping to make YOU feel alot better, sometimes it takes trying out a few groups before you feel comfortable, the first meeting I ever attended was basically for Parents of Alcoholic/Addict Kids. It wasnt the same as being with a group for spouses, but all the same feelings were there, try to find what is best for you. Keep in mind that GUILT is something that has been engraved in us, we are very good at carrying it all. Keep posting here, it has helped me tremendously. There are lots of people here who care. Hang in there.....
Bonbon