As you and I have discussed, Alateen for your kids. Yes I know they don't want to go, however, you are the MOM and can tell them they need to try at least 2 meetings each.
Find a meeting in New York
The above list will give you a start for meetings in your area.
Alanon for you. Another great tool.
As to the kids. They are TEENAGERS. lol and I hate to say this, but teenagers run hot and cold on a given topic with sometimes many changes in the same day. They are confused, want to 'blame' someone and right now it is you.
You know that he is just 'dry' and without some type of recovery program will relapse. Then your kids will have Mom to fall back on, as they are going to be more hurt than they are now. It is then they might be more willing to attend Alanon or some private counseling.
In the meantime.......................................... .............know that you are doing the 'right' thing for you and your children.
We support you here, and I am sure your local Alanon will support you also.
Please keep posting and let us know how you are doing, we do care very much!
Love and hugs,