Twolabs: I also went through infertility. After years of trying and two miscarriages, I finally conceived and carried to term my twin boys. It is still crazy to me that after ALL that to have a baby and now I'm raising my kids myself! I firmly believe that God has a plan. Although this is not the path you would have chosen, all you have been through up to this point was to have your son. You have the best part of your AH right now in your little boy. No matter what happens, that won't change. Focus on you for now. AH will either get help or he won't. Either way, you need to protect you and your child.