The only comment I want to make is to make sure you are doing this for you and not in the hopes of getting your relationship back. If you do get back together, then great, but even if you don't, you'll be better for it from having grown yourself. A lot of what you have written so far is clearly directed about "her" and your relationship with "her". I know it's tough to do it for you only but it's the same as the alcoholic who seeks recovery for someone else...it never really clicks, kwim? This is really about YOU separate from this relationship. HTH!