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i just left my exabf and i thought the same thing. but look at it this way either he will get depressed and never clean up his act, and therefore you made the right choice for yourself by leaving. OR he will finally realize what he's doing and get into recovery and maybe down the line you could get back together.

so far my exabf seems to be really trying to change, getting into outpatient treatment, going to CHURCH (this is really shocking) and actually looking for a real job. but a phrase i read on here helped me make my choice - "if nothing changes, nothing changes" if i hadn't made him move out, he'd still be lying around on the couch doing the same old stuff.