i finally left after 10 miserable years with my xAH i stayed for my children and i thought i was doing the best for them they never complained and i thought they were coping ok until i did finally leave, and my then 6yr old said to me one day " i love you mummy and i love daddy but I'm glad we don't live with him any more , because you don't cry all the time and we laugh now " i had to stop the car i cryd so much and it still brings me to tears now thinking about it , i was so stupid i though they wernt being affected, but we've been gone 18 mnths now and iv watched my children change and grow confident and open there petals and turn into the children they should be,