My DH drinks. He drinks alot and it pisses me off. not so much because I want one but because he doesn't have a clue what being sober is like. i really don't know if he is an alcoholic or not. After 20+ years in the Marine Corps it might just be conditioning but it isn't my worry. Most days I would happily tell him to get the F*#% out but for now I deal with it. He still can't say 'AA meeting' he asks if I am meeting my friends again...whatever. I know I can't make any big changes right now, we have been married for 13 years, so I just grin and bear it and get on the computer. We drank together for over 15 years, he didn't like me as a slobering full time drunk but I don't think he likes this sober person either. unfortunetly my life was unmanageable and I needed to turn it over to a HP to help!! And I am happy about it every day!!
Wishing you the best with your situation and know that you are in no way alone. There is a family and friends forum that is also very good reading!