I'm glad you told your family too. That's huge. You are probably going to need there help in the future as your husband doesn't seem like he's anywhere near his bottom yet. He's still lying and manipulating and that says it all. Actions speak louder than words.
At times like this it's a good idea to make a plan B. In the end we can only be responsible for taking care of ourselves. We can't expect anyone else to do it for us. Our lives are ours to live. We are responsible ONLY for our own choices. Not the choices of anyone else.
How are your children holding up through all this? I'm sure they must be noticing the elephant in their living room by now...