What a coincidence...I am not currently able to go to many meetings as I have a 2 year old living with me...I have been using a fill in sponsor, the problem is that she is having problems and sometimes it seems I am doing better than her. Friday nights there is a meeting about 35 miles away. My mom has Xander on Friday and Sat nights. I have/had a date for tomorrow night but something made me email the man and tell him I would not be available til after 8pm...I told him that I needed to go to this meeting tomorrow because I need to find a sponsor, do the steps correctly, so that I may be of use to someone that was as downtrodden as I was when I started 3 years ago...My opinion is that to do this the right way, we need to do it the right way... Thy will not mine...thanks for this post...Marian