Yes SS, I am one who likes to be in control too, but lessons are learnt every day. Sometimes we just need to let go. I just wish that I knew this years ago, but obviously I wasn't quite ready for it back then. Everything for a reason they say.
To be honest, it is so good to let go of what was not mine to own. To turn that focus back to myself and my hubby was amazing in itself. It was like, who are you??
We are like a pair of kids again and if either one of us slips and starts asking questions, we pull each other up and say Na, not our concern. It has been good to renew our relationship with each other after years of focusing on her. So goooood!!!