None of us is perfect thats for sure.
We all have/had our part to play.......I have learnt along the way to not be drawn in! I have learnt along the way to be responsible for my own behaviour and reactions. I have learnt to take responsibility.......and in case I sound like I have it all sorted I don't!! when I stuff up I try again to react/behave differently the next time.....I am still learning.
I hear what you are saying but DON'T BE DRAWN IN!!!! Focus on yourself and what is best for you and you only.......so here is the smack you asked for
(grin! grin!)
Keep reading keep posting......you are already learning....step by step....one day/minute/hour/second at a time if necessary.
Step aside from the chaos and decide what is best for YOU.
All the best Phiz