Hi Carol,
Thanks for the welcome!!
I understand what you mean by changing who I hang around with, but my problem is it is either extended family, or really good friends of "ours", not just mine. The couples that we hang around with are not bad people, hell, most of the women don't drink at all or very little, it is just the guys that pound quite a few beers when we are all together. One of them is definatley my best friend in the world. We have a strong friendship built on a lot more than just hanging out drinking beer, and I don't want to lose that. I guess the obvious solution is to tell him right? If he is as good of a friend as I say, he will understand that I don't want to drink with him...... I don't know, just really confused right now on how to handle all kinds of situations. I don't want to just abandon all of the people that my wife and I socialize with, that is not fair to all of them or my wife. Why should everyone else suffer because of me?