Hi Debbie,
I was married to an Alcoholic and Atic for a short time. He became agressive in the same way your husband was. I kept leaving him and coming back. Finally I left for the last time. He stalked me for about 5 years after that. I can look back now and see that I should have left a lot sooner. I don't think he would have been a stalker if I had. But, my heart was involved at the time and making decisions with all that emotion is complicated. I think it would be good to learn about domestic violence. That way when things happen it will be harder for you to slip into denial. A book that I liked was The Men who Hate Women and the Women that Love Them. It's an older book, but it helped me when I was going through it. I don't know what books are out there now. I've had such bad luck with men that I made the choice to stay single. I haven't been in a relationship for 12 years now. I kind of like it that way. I'm content. Keep yourself safe.