Tigerlily, I understand and have been where you are. You would be surprised at the number of people who Don't drink and are fine. There are many options, including my personal favorite of I'm trying to loose weight ( I have a vodka gut). Or that you are on antibiotics or that you're allergic, blah blah blah. Until you can say that I just don't drink! And you will also be surprised at the real jacka##es people make of themselves and don't even realize it. And pretty soon you will be saying, there but for the Grace of God go I.