Gifts from my HP
I have had 2 gifts in 2 days and I am getting healthy enough to notice.
1. My STBXAH finally accepted the settlement offer for the divorce. He signed it today and I will be divorced officially in a few weeks. I feel such a weight lifeted and a sense of joy and freedom. I feel like skipping. He doesn't appear to be as pleased, but he has had millions of chances and well you know how that goes.
2. I wrote in my last post how I accidently discovered he was having another affair and how it shook me to the core. It wasn't the woman or the sex, it was more the betrayal of our children as he has been neglecting them finacially and emotionally as he fuifills his own selfish needs. Pouring more hurt onto hurt children and then blaming the kids.
Well, the gift was I had to do some banking for my kids and the banker is my husband's new lover! Before, I would have hidden or drove 30 miles to the other branch. The new me put on her nice clothes, make-up etc and walked in. I wish I had a picture of the look on her face. We sat down and conducted the business and I was watching her intently as she knew who I was. Her hands were visibly shaking and she looked like she was going to cry or faint. She is probably 15-20 years younger than me and my STBXAH and seems to be a very sweet lovely young gal that is completely missing every red flag in front of her. After the business was done I said, "I hear you are involved with my HUSBAND (said nicely of course). She said she was glad I brought it up because she felt terrible about how I found out. She then assured me they were just friends. I know for a fact as I saw evidence that they are sexually involved, but didn't let on. I looked at her and then said, "were you the one that went with him to the city?" She apparently didn't know I knew this and she defensively replied she had business and they met up as they are just friends. I then asked her if she was the one that spent the night with him in the hotel room. This floored her too, and I just looked at her as she realized I knew she was lying. In the mean time she was looking more and more uneasy, almost about to cry and her hands were really shaking. I said, well I hope we can become friendly just in case this "frienship" continues because my girls are involved. I also ended by saying in the nicest way possible, "I wish you the best and I hope he treats you as well as he has treated me. Have a great day."
I left with such a sense of victory because I didn't hide and act scared. I made my presence known and I stood up for myself. I didn't act crazy. The weird thing was she reminded me of me 20 years ago when I first met AH. The sad thing was the lying from her and of course him.
Come to think of it his lie was a gift too. He said the same thing, "we are just friends and what's the big deal?" about the first affair. Now I know for sure: TRUST MT GUT INSTINCT...I AM RIGHT 95% OF THE TIME.
:bounce :bounce :bounce