That sounds familiar. I've had plenty of people say that I wasn't a alcoholic. The solution was so easy to them, just cut back. It worked to a certain point. For most people cutting back shouldn't be something they have to think about and pain themselves with trying. For me though it about drove me crazy trying to cut back and control it. But for to many people they think unless you're homeless, in prison for multiple DWI's and manslaugher, cirrhosis of the liver, or acting just like Nicholas Cage from Leaving Las Vegas you don't have a problem. Sometimes I wold get so frustrated I would think well hold on and let me go get ****** up for another 5-10 years and come back to see what you think. It's just ignorance and denial that's all. It's ultimately you who should know if you have a problem or not and if you think you do, you probably have one no matter what stage you may be at.