Hi Caitlyn...
I wish I could find the recent post where someone was saying that their anon group encouraged attending meetings for about 6 mos before making any major life changes regarding the addict. It sounds like good advice. Marriage is supposed to be for the rest of your life... what can waiting a few months to really figure things out hurt? I know personally of a couple of marriages where the A has given up the substance and things seem just fine. But I also know, that of all my friends that have married, the ones who have gone ahead with serious doubts in their mind have not lasted.
I hope your boyfriend will understand the need for giving this decision a little more time.
Smoke